I have observed that if I do not see people often, connections are usually dropped. People who live in busy cities and have busy lives tend to have no space to nurture connections. This feeling is intensified when it is during festivities. The relations in large cities are insular, it may be as limited as only with your close family unit, or maybe with your work colleagues.
I am not employed by a company nor do I have a current contract with an employer, my work is freelance based. When we finish a job, we move on to the next, and if we do not work with the initial company again, we may not connect frequently. Connections in the city I live in has an agenda, a strong one, and it is related to work.
Presently, I am not working with a fixed group of people, so my main connection focus is within my home and with family. Family can be a support system in our lives, but many families may not even have that set up, or sometimes as mentioned earlier, families can be a deterence towards more connections in life if they become the sole emphasis and dependency.
To maintain connections and to have a support system is important for everyone of us. Even though living in modern cities it is very easy to be "self-sufficient", this is not a viable option for healthy living, as when people tend to do life on their own, it creates isolation with others and the world.
So if you find yourself feeling isolated, these are some things I can share with you.
1/Drop the pride, awkwardness, embarrassment to reach out to people, and just reach out, this step already would make you feel better
2/Drop the needs-when you reach out don't be needy of people, rather share your feelings genuinely
3/Listen as well as speak, it is an exchange between people and it is not all about you, that's the first step in connecting
4/Express without feeling less but be real, that brings intimacy
5/Appreciate and allow yourself to be loved, there are many people out there but we have to see it and appreciate
6/Be consistent
7/If we need support on this process, come talk to a counsellor at Hello Gorgeous Space, where expression is honored
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